Lessons From Life Book Review
There is definitely a lot to learn by the life stories of Steven M. Darter. Lessons from Life aim to guide us in life and help us find our true meaning. If you’re still looking for your purpose, you can consider reading this book.
Title: Lessons From Life: Four Keys to Living with More Meaning, Purpose, and Success
Author: Steven M. Darter
Year: Published: Published: 27/04/2018
Length: 256 pages
Genre: Business; Autobiography.
Get a copy: 1) Search in local bookstores to support small business; 2) Amazon.
Short Description: A journey of a regular guy who is able to find happiness in this busy world full of noise and clutter. Steven M. Darter helps us find our own mission in life and hopefully become more satisfied with our lives. All of the above by telling his story and sharing his personal life: The struggles the setbacks and the light at the end of the tunnel.
You can find a lot of interesting stories inside the pages of the book Lessons from life by Steven M. Darter which can make you think about different things in your own life.
Let’s first start with the purpose of the book: The author, Steven M. Darter, wants to help us find our true meaning in life. Find the right path for our own persona. A problem that is common nowadays. There are so many things trying to steal our attention that is really hard to keep your mind focused towards one thing not to mention to find our meaning.
But let’s return to the book itself: Does the author succeeds in giving us direction in this busy world where the lack of meaning is so common? Well, in a way yes.
Through his own story, he tries to help us find our way. There are certainly things I liked and such I didn’t quite like in the book but overall the content inside is good.
In my opinion, the hidden gems in the book are the questions after each section.
Notes, thoughts, and essential takeaways that I want to remember from the book. My main goal is to leave you with curated content, to which you can easily return to in the future for reference, that’s also holding the main insights of the book without spoiling what the book is all about:
Clear the Garbage
The first thing that caught my eyes while I was reading the book was when the author is mentioning that the garbage around him was blocking the light. The path he had to take. That was so relatable to my own life.
If you think about it for a moment you will immediately see that he’s right.
There are so many things that are blocking our physical and mental space. Clutter that is only blocking our thoughts.
The above-mentioned garbage can be divided into two sections:
- Offline garbage: The extra pairs of clothes, shoes, handbags, or whatever, that are only taking out of your physical space. You don’t necessarily need 30 shirts or 20 pairs of shoes to survive in the world, nor, you need 20 candles and a ton of home decoration hanging on your shelves.
- Online garbage: There are already programs that help you block other programs. It’s like machines killing machines. Like we’re living in the Matrix. If not used correctly, the browser installed on your PC can become your main reason for procrastination. The social media channels are more likely to waste our time than to help us connect with other people. Recently, in order to take a break from Facebook, I decided to unfollow everyone on social media. Drastic times call for drastic measures. It surely helped me clean some space in my mind.
If you’re feeling lost and you don’t know what to do with your life, I believe the first thigh you should do is to organize both your physical space and your thoughts.
First throw away all of the stuff that isn’t bringing any joy to your life. Then, sit for a while and organize your thoughts.
Becoming Who You’re Designed To Be
We often try to find our own meaning by pursuing interests, buying stuff, following people who we like only because they look cool. We mimic their actions because we think that this is the right path towards happiness and success.
Even though success is measured in most of the cases by the amount of money you receive and the number of subscribers you have, especially these days, in reality, success is tightly related to happiness. In other words, you don’t become successful and then happy, it’s quite the opposite. You find happiness and then you become successful.
The important part is that you can’t be truly happy if you’re doing something you don’t like or pretend to be someone you’re not. The only way to be content with yourself is to perform tasks that are pleasing to your own self. Not copy what others are doing and hope come somewhere along the way.
Your life’s mission is to know yourself so you can focus all of your efforts towards what you like. Only by doing so, you will be truly satisfied with your own existence.
Re-evaluate the criteria you use to determine whether you’re successful or not.
In most of the cases, you will look for outside factors to consider yourself and others successful or not. As mention above already, a couple of the factors society uses to measure the greatness of someone in the world are the amount of salary they receive and also the number of their Twitter/Instagram followers.
The author prompts us to think about what success means to us. I will quote a really interesting question from the book:
What criteria are you using to determine if you are living a successful life?
If your current criteria to measure how successful you are in life is measured by the following things: a fancy car, enormous house, a closet full of clothes, salary that it’s getting bigger, beautiful spouse, I have to disappoint you.
The fancy car will be old after a few years. The same applies to the clothes you own; The big house doesn’t mean that you will have a carrying family; If you’re looking for a partner and you’re only considering his looks, you will definitely end up in a situation that you will regret.
What kind of work motivates you?
When you are engaged in work and activity that fits your natural talent, your giftedness, you will come closer to realizing the purpose of your life and your intended destiny.
A lot of people fall into despair because they don’t know what’s their passion and don’t know towards where to direct their lives.
People nowadays are more depressed than ever before in human history. Why? Because they don’t know towards where to direct their lives. They lack the knowledge of what is motivating them, what is pushing them. That’s the side effect of scrolling through social media for most of your day.
It’s not simply about finding your passion or meaning. It’s also about finding what motivates you. What helps you get up at 06:00 AM in the morning to go for a run. What makes you go to work? What makes you eat healthy?
A lot of times the answer will be money.
I get up every day to go to work. I work because I need money. I need money to pay out my loan.
If money it’s the only thing you pursue, money is the only thing you will get. Without satisfaction or joy. Look beyond the money problem and ask yourself what is really making you breathe? Making you alive?
No matter what it is, you must find it.
We all influence others
We all have an impact on others but we’re often unaware of this.
When you tell your friend that he gained weight, for example, you might think that this won’t cause any harm, but in reality, he can go back home and cry for hours.
On the other hand, that same comment can inspire. Your friend can stop eating junk food and start exercising. Potentially, a single note can change someone’s life.
The idea behind this is to give constructive feedback. You’re influencing others whether you like it or not. Your actions, inactions, words, even social media posts can hurt or can inspire.
If you’re managing a team, and you’re always late for work don’t get surprised when you see your colleagues coming late at their working stations as well.
When you use your giftedness in loving ways – in ways that help those in need – your life will be more meaningful, and you will come closer to achieving your purpose and intended destiny.” Steven M. Darter
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